“The practice of suddenly ending all contact with a person without explanation, especially in a romantic relationship.”
There are different levels of ghosting. Sometimes someone might be messaging you and then just stop replying, which to be honest, isn’t really fair, but it happens. The worst type of ghosting is once you’ve been on a date with someone, or even worse, been dating someone for a while.
In my opinion, ghosting someone is one of the WORST ways you can treat someone. Do you not think that you at least owe that individual who has invested their time in you, some kind of honesty, even if it is rejection?
I know rejecting someone can be awkward, but when it comes to dating, communication and honesty is so important. If you’ve put yourself out there enough to go on a date, then I’m sure you can cope with being adult enough to tell someone if they’re not right for you.
The worst experience I’ve personally had of ghosting was during lockdown. I was dating a guy for around 5 months and aside from coronavirus, things were going really well (his words, not just mine). We had so many plans in mind for when lockdown was over and we couldn’t wait to be reunited. A few days prior he was telling me how much he missed me and he was sorry that work had been so busy and he hadn’t been able to talk as much as he had wanted to. Out of absolutely no where, on a day he was meant to call me he literally just disappeared and never messaged me again (and yes he is still alive). At first, I thought maybe something had either happened to him, or had happened to his Nan who I knew wasn’t very well… but nope, just a cowardly a**hole who decided to ghost me during one of the worst periods of my life!
I think one of the hardest things about being ghosted is it doesn’t give you closure, which so many people need. There isn’t an explanation, you may not ever find out what happened and more often than not you start to look at yourself and wonder if it was something you did wrong.
I can tell you now, it wasn’t something you did wrong. In fact, it was a lucky escape! The type of person who is happy to treat someone in this way is not the kind of person you want to build a relationship with. The closure? The closure is the fact they decided to ignore your messages, rather than have the balls to be honest with you.
Don’t devalue yourself by wasting a second more either trying to communicate with them, or by thinking about them! You are worth SO much more than that and trust me, one day you’ll look back and be thankful that it never worked out with them.